MY FRIEND, THAT IS
HOW I MET MY HUSBAND
You’ve probably guessed it right.
My husband and I met online in the early 2000s when you had to log on to your dating site with dial-up. You know how I took my dating profile photo? I had to go to Fedex Kinkos and scan it to a floppy disk!
Feels like that was a lifetime ago!
Before I met my guy, I was a hugeee love skeptic. I didn’t think I’d get married after months of unsuccessful online dating.
I never was the girl in school who was chased by boys. I never had a date on Valentine’s Day. I always struggled to feel beautiful and to fit in.
Approaching my teenage year, I started to think I was too good for anybody. I was intelligent, I was performing academically.
In adulthood, I started to feel ‘peer pressure’. As my friends began to couple up I felt like I’d become a professional third-wheel.
(Now, I’m a professional dating coach with a record of successfully pairing thousands of individuals together!)
Back then, dating in my city was really difficult. No one was really focused on a serious relationship. Everyone seemed distracted, superficial, or just plain uninspiring.
I was ready to hop on a plane to New York and start over because I thought that I would never meet someone where I came from.
Luckily, before I did a complete location shift, I decided to really examine HOW I’d been dating and WHY I felt so burnt out and discouraged. I wanted to see if there was anything I could do differently.
I didn’t want to get to New York and discover that the problem wasn’t where I lived, it was actually my approach.
So I began to treat my quest for ‘the right person’ like a business, with a goal for success and strategies to reach it.
In the process, I discovered that…
- The micro-choices that I was making had been pushing love away.
- I lacked a clear understanding of my ideal partner.
- I maintained paper-thin boundaries with the guys I was dating, allowing them to trample my feelings along with my hopes of a real relationship in the process.
I was able to see clearly and develop a strategy that led me straight to my husband. We now have been married for 15 years.
I went from a complete love cynic to a happy relationship in the span of a couple of months after I made this SHIFT in online dating.
That is what lead me to be an online dating coach. I see how much my life has changed with this new outlook. Since that time, I have dedicated my life to helping others find love. I’ve had clients make connections on every major dating app, I’ve led people to connect with love offline too, and I stay current on the latest trends, app features, and dating etiquette.
My friend.
